Social Anxiety Disorder Information: Q&A

I finally decided to make a social anxiety disorder information questions and answers page! I Receive lots of questions over our email, but they’re kept private. Even though lots of value is offered there, so I decided to make the whole questions and answers process public so it can benefit everyone!

For privacy purposes I won't publish the email submitted questions.

Hope to receive lots of questions through this particular page so we can have a nice questions and answers page, for now here's a couple from the social anxiety disorder information forums.

Question

Couldn't help noticing the phrase "Stop Avoidance and fear will go away". What sort of approach do you adopt when tackling a situation you feel unprepared for? Just throw yourself into it of look for something you feel is tough but achievable? I've thrown myself into the lion’s den sporadically but never got used to it really. Any suggestions if and when you find the time are welcome.

Answer:

Yeah.. I mean throwing yourself into the lion’s den will almost never end well in the short term.

But, in the long run if you did that a lot you’d develop indifference towards, you can only be terrified by a new situation so many times, then it'll stop being a new situation. You can never think short term when it comes to this, got to see the big picture.

Both commitment and understanding are important, commitment because you won’t always get the results you want ESPECIALLY in the beginning and understanding so that you can actually strive to do it in a way that ensures that you are indeed developing confidence kind of deal.

Else you could just be striking yourself against the same wall over and over :P both are important, just got to see the bigger picture.

Start small, I read somewhere something among the lines of "anxiety comes when the challenge is bigger than the skill, boredom when the skill is greater than the challenge and excitement when the skill matches the challenge."

So basically, throwing yourself into the lion’s den is a good thing and it could end well or not, don’t always expect it to end bad but know it is a possibility.

Either way it’s still good because you’re stretching your comfort zone a lot. Look at it this way; the more nervous you are to do something and doing it, the more self-trust you’ll get out of it.

Cheers!
Gary

Short Reply:

"anxiety comes when the challenge is bigger than the skill, boredom when the skill is greater than the challenge and excitement when the skill matches the challenge."

This is very insightful. Thank you for the time it took to write, you obviously put thought into this.

I went to a Muay Thai gym a few times after never having left the house in years, hard to believe to people probably. One of the guys there drew attention to how nervous I looked came out not feeling a bag of freshly picked roses with slight amnesia lol.

Incredible anxiety, however, you're right in the sense that in the long-term I've learned what I'm up against, i know I've improved since then dramatically. I know when I'm thrown in I can handle myself with some decorum EVEN in situations like that I could file out seemingly unperturbed to curious onlookers. Thanks for all the social anxiety disorder information and thanks again m8.

I read your "controversial" thread on the forums lol.

I like what you have to say.

I am sort of the same as you, and am actually a party animal like your signature says. I have pretty much just put all my fears behind me and gone through with things. The fear is always there, and of course I have very depressing days, but I still go out and do things man.

Keep it up, don't know what everyone’s problem on here is.

Thanks dude, you’re definitely on the right track, just realize that going out and facing fear makes them disappear, that’s all there is to it. Gather all the social anxiety disorder information you can and the you go do things you’re scared to do and they will go away.

Of course people get trapped on the trivialities around it, and don’t even TRY.

If more people were actually trying and not whining this place would be completely different, so you’re definitely right there in the group that will achieve a lot!

Cheers!
Gary

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