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Throwing yourself into the lion’s den will almost never end well in the short term.
But, in the long run if you did put yourself in those uncomfortable situations every time you found them, you’d eventually feel less and less anxious about it; you can only be terrified by a certain new social situation so many times. Eventually it'll stop being a situation that makes you feel as anxious as it used to. You can never think short term when it comes to expanding your comfort zone; you’ve always got to see the big picture.
Commitment and understanding are two equally important values to cultivate. You need commitment because you won’t always get the results you want ESPECIALLY in the beginning, and you need understanding so that you can actually aim your social improvement efforts in the right direction and move as fast as possible.
Start small, anxiety comes when the challenge is bigger than the skill, boredom when the skill is greater than the challenge and excitement when the skill matches the challenge.
So basically, throwing yourself into the lion’s den is a good thing and it could end well or not. The really important thing is that the more you survive those socially awkward situations, the more you’ll get de-sensitized to them.
Thanks man, you’re definitely on the right track, just realize that going out and facing fear makes it disappear, that’s all there is to it. Gather all the self confidence tips you can and then you go do things you’re scared to do and the fear will go away.
Of course people get trapped on all the trivialities around it, and don’t even TRY.
If more people were actually trying and not whining the world would be completely different, so you’re definitely right there in the group that will achieve a lot!
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