Here’s seven principles and ideas for a fun date for the people who love the “step 1, step 2” lists kind of deal, 7 ideas for a fun date! 7 ideas to keep it fun. These ideas will keep any date of your choice on the fun part of the dating spectrum, wherever you choose to go, call it night club, bar, trekkie convention or just laying on a couch and watching movies.
1 – Get yourself social BEFORE the date starts, don’t expect to be playing World of Warcraft all day and then go out and be Mr.SocialGuy, being social is about building momentum, getting in a social mood and starting to be social with ease. I’ve had total hermit days where I go out at night and I feel uneasy socially, social warming is a must. If you're living a socially-rich life then this should be no problem, if you're usually not very social then go warm up!
2 – Have no expectations, it’s just another girl, there are billions of them, literally. Expectations put you in a needy frame, there’s nothing more unattractive than neediness, and neediness is annoying, therefore boring - which brings us to the next point.
3 – Relax... If you're relaxed it means you date a lot, this opens up an interesting can of worms. Relax because this is something that you do all the time, you’re used to it, right? Well if that’s not the case then make it the case. Very much related to 2, expect to be naturally relaxed when it’s become second nature to you... Date a lot, (this way you have no expectations) a guy who's relaxed is attractive.
4 - Show your attraction, the most fun you can have with girls (in a romantic frame) is when you can both feel this invisible energy of attraction between you. You both know it’s there and it's pretty obvious, but it's unspoken. You gotta be careful with this one, showing your attraction doesn’t mean “be needy and go all in”. Show it by bits depending on the situation and in a chill way. As you develop more social intuition you’ll get better at controlling the dose of interest to show and when. It’s called flirting, and it’s massive fun ;)
5 – LEAD. Girls like to be led, actually no... they WANT to be led, you’re driving the car in this date so she can just sit back and enjoy the ride. Don’t have her make decisions, it's generally in their ideas for a fun date when you are taking her into your world showing her YOUR fun, so she can see what you're all about. She wants to feel like an important character in a movie but not the star of the movie, YOU are the star of this movie.
6 - Go somewhere where you both can feel comfortable. I’m not saying “sit in your comfort zone” it is a good idea to expand your comfort zone when going out. But when it comes to having ideas for a fun date, you want to find a place where you feel in control, keeping it fun, this makes things flow smoothly. Also, depending on the place you can move things foward or not.
7 - Keep it light and fun unless this is your girlfriend we’re talking about... you don’t want to get too intense too early regarding feelings. Keep it fun and relaxed, escalate if it’s needed/you want to. No girl wants you to declare your unconditional love for her on a first date.
Keep those 7 principles and ideas for a fun date in mind and ANY place you choose to go with a girl will result in a quality fun date.
Here's a few fin date ideas on what to do and where to actually go:
Remember to keep yourself social and those 7 principles in mind and there you have all those ideas for a fun date. Go out and get social!
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