Failing to understand what the characteristics of a good leader with girls are is one of the main reasons guys fail in relationships. What girls want is a real man, and a real man is able to lead her, lead others and lead a relationship.
This is why it’s so important to learn to lead girls!A very high percentage of the success of your relationship is in your ability to lead as a man if not all of it.
Oftentimes problems with intimacy, your girl not showing much interest anymore, your girl acting bitchy and cheating, has to do with a guy failing to be the man and lead a relationship.
You must be the man and lead your relationship.So, as you’ve read in what makes a good leader in general, the first step is decision making, with girls it’s the same.
You’ve got to make the decisions:
I think a lot of girls will agree with me when I say that they want a man who’s leading an interaction, a conversation, the evening and a relationship.
Of course you’ve got to listen to her and take her opinion into account, but ultimately she wants you to be the driver of that car and she just wants to enjoy the ride.
If you fail to do so then she’ll unconsciously have to step up and “be the man” herself. This is when the power starts to shift and you get to see guys who get dominated by their girl, I think neither would enjoy that situation, not even her.
Her: What should we do today?
You: I don’t know baby pumpkin cake sweetie sweetheart of love, what do YOU want to do?
That’s terrible, even if it’s a bad decision just make it, go with whatever plan you make but just decide.
Her: What should we do today?
You: We should grab a bite and then go for a carousel ride.
I’m pretty sure she’ll be way happier with the dynamics of the second situation than the first; this applies for most decisions. Like I said before her opinion is also important!
Keep a balance but try to be the one who ultimately makes it. This is one of the principal characteristics of a good leader with women.
This doesn’t mean you should get in a fight or go crazy about how to make your decision be the one that stands.
This is a lot like making decisions, except it involves some previous planning, make plans for Friday or Saturday night, plan how you’re getting wherever you’re going, tell her to put on a nice dress and just enjoy going along with the plan.
This also involves smaller plans, I have friend who does this perfectly even though he might take it to an extreme sometimes.
For example if we’re chilling at his place and we’ve decided to cook and made a mess, when it’s time to pick it up he’ll quickly make the plan and lead everyone: “Gary do the dishes, GF wipe my forehead, I’ll clean the rest”.
I accuse him sometimes of being too bossy but it is actually a perfect example of leading and you can apply it to girls, make a plan, give her a chore, give yourself one and make it fair, she’ll be happy you’ve taken care of the situation; just another of the important characteristics of a good leader.
As a men we’re supposed to be a “strong rock”, solid, isn’t manipulated easily, when trouble comes he keeps his cool. He’s a “real man” and every girls dream. One of the main characteristics of a good leader and a man is this.
Girls are emotional creatures and sometimes they’ll want to see how solid you are as a man so, they will test you, if you let those “tests” make you go off balance then you’ll be losing her respect and leadership in an unconscious way.
She’s allowed to be emotional, you’re not, sorry guys but that’s just the way it is.
This is leading emotionally and being in control of yourself, this is a big and very important chunk of keeping a girlfriend and a relationship is all about.
If she’s being emotional and yelling at you don’t yell at her, if she insults you don’t insult back, just be unreactive and use humor to calm things down.
Always remember to be more assertive when she’s crossed the line, but for the most part don’t get emotional with her.
These are a few of the characteristics of a good leader with women, leadership is a very important characteristic of the man every woman wants, think of examples of high status men like George Clooney, this is exactly how he’d treat his girl and it drives them crazy for you, lead and succeed, go out and get social!
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