Body language signs are a very basic aspect of socializing. The topic of body language opens up an interesting can of worms. Your body language - like it or not - will tell people who you are.
This happens almost accidentally, it’s hard to hide the truth behind your movements, your eye contact, or the way you walk.
“The eye is the window of the soul, the mouth the door. The intellect, the will, are seen in the eye; the emotions, sensibilities, and affections, in the mouth. The animals look for man's intentions right into his eyes. Even a rat, when you hunt him and bring him to bay, looks you in the eye.” - Hiram Powers, American sculptor (1805 - 1873)
I’ll make that quote even longer and say “your body language is a window to your mind”, well, maybe it's not the most poetic quote ever made.
But it’s true. Like Tyler Durden from Real Social Dynamics says, “the self is always coming through”: in every action, in every movement, in every look... Your internal mind state will be shown externally through your eye contact and body language.
What this means is that if you’re feeling confident, scared, insecure, or cool, then your body language will reflect your internal state.
And other people will be able to read those body language signs; it doesn’t happen on a logical level.
You don’t see confident body language and go through a check list in your mind to realize that what you’re seeing in fact is confident body language signs.
It happens unconsciously, your mind recognizes that what it's seeing is confident body language.
It’s one of those things that our most basic human nature allows us to simply recognize.
Reading body language is a pretty broad topic, so I’ve divided it in multiple sections so you can look through them individually.
If you’re interested in understanding body language in general for social connection purposes, then you can just recognize the most basic body language signs and learn how to interpret them.
Stances, hesitation, fiddling, rambling, stuttering, arm positions... All these are signs that represent something and they all come from one of the most basic natural human social rules: status.
The right body language can also represent better opportunities with the opposite sex, as I wrote about in how to attract girls: “Females are attracted to social status mainly” and body language is your presentation card.
Using the right body language differentiates a good start from a bad start in your interactions with girls, it’s all about what you project.
Use what you’ve learned about reading other people’s body language on yourself.
You can also learn to identify a girl’s signs of attraction for you. Learn from the most obvious to the most subtle body language signs that a girl displays when she’s attracted to you.
Incredibly powerful and easy to learn, reading a girl’s body language is something you must learn when first starting to work on your skills with girls.
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